当我学会“梅拉宾法则”，和孩子的沟通突然顺畅了
<!----><style type="text/css">html{font-size:375%}</style><link href="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712" rel="stylesheet" position="1" data-qf-origin="/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712"><!-- 付费贴--> <div class="preview_article "> <!----> <section class="empty_paragraph"></section><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 578px; height: 249px;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fv8K1jaoQHFktjbjcM2j5TmTPi-r" /></p><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-bottom: 0px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-indent: 0em; white-space: normal; color: #222222; line-height: 1.6em; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: center; visibility: visible;"></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-wrap: wrap; background-color: #ffffff;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; 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letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">谁能想到，自从儿子上初中后，原本乖巧懂事的他突然变得<strong>“易燃易爆”。</strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">动不动就因为一点小事变得特别狂躁，跟我顶嘴，冲我大吼大叫。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他在那边吃饭边看手机，我不过说了他两句，结果他翻了个白眼：<strong>“别烦我！</strong>”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他写作业磨磨蹭蹭，我催了他一声，他却暴躁地说：“你能不能出去，让我清静一会儿！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">跟他说点啥，都油盐不进，简直不可理喻！</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">那天晚上，儿子吃完饭一直在那玩手机。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我本来不想说他，但眼看着马上就要七点了，我实在忍不住了，怒气冲冲地冲着他大吼：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #000000;">“都几点了，还在玩手机，你就不能自觉点吗？”</span></strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">没想到，儿子愣了一下，满脸不耐烦地说：“不用你管我！我乐意！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">态度之恶劣，让我无法忍受。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我这暴脾气蹭一下就上来了：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“怎么？翅膀硬了？说你两句还不行了是吗！</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">你看看你最近的成绩，简直一塌糊涂！你这样下去还想不想上高中了？”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">说完上前就推搡儿子，想夺回他手里的手机。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">这下就像捅了马蜂窝，儿子的情绪瞬间爆发，把手机狠狠地摔到地上，指着我的鼻子吼道：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“别以为你是我妈就了不起！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">说完头也不回地回了房间，砰的一声关上了门。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我站在原地目瞪口呆，内心气血翻涌。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我实在也想不通，从前那个对我言听计从、自律勤奋的孩子，怎么变成了这样？<br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;" /></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; width: 562px; visibility: visible !important; height: 156px;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fiz96Ku-yCMvqjzl9KsLdD6uiEEx" /></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">第二天，我越想越生气，便找学心理学的闺蜜诉苦：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“我含辛茹苦养大的孩子，如今变得这么叛逆暴躁，我真是太失败了！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">闺蜜听我讲完来龙去脉，不禁摇摇头：“要我说，你得先把你这个暴脾气收一收，不然啊，你儿子的问题无解！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我很不服气，我脾气暴怎么了？这能怪我吗？还不都是被这个不成器的孩子气的！</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">闺蜜看我不服，便给我讲了心理学上的“</span><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #000000;">梅拉宾法则</span></strong><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">”：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">讲的是，在人际沟通中，一个人对他人的印象只有7%取决于谈话的内容，而听觉信息如语气、音量等则占了38%，视觉信息如表情、态度等则高达55%。<br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;" /></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; visibility: visible !important; width: 645px !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FrYbpo5YEWvImcVKl4GTi9GlF877" /></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">也就是说：</span><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #0052ff;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;">父母和孩子交流时，如果父母的面部表情看起来是愤怒的、失望的，语气听起来是高昂的、尖锐的。即使父母的道理再正确，初衷再怎么为了孩子好，也是无济于事。</strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">闺蜜还给我举了综艺《超级育儿师》里的一个案例。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">里面有一个叫宸宸的少年，叛逆又暴力。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">无论妈妈对他怎么关心，他要么充耳不闻，要么就是嘶吼着：“要你管？”“出去！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">吃饭时，宸宸常常吃到一半，扔下碗筷就走；</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">甚至还在房间里备着一根大棍子，用它来威胁妈妈。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; visibility: visible !important; width: 645px !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fp71BNxiRlfkT-i_bdAoyGQiOq4v" /></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">然而，嘉宾兰海观察后发现：宸宸的叛逆，其实是被父母错误的沟通方式激出来的。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">明明在吃饭，妈妈突然抽出一张卷子，不容拒绝他让边吃边答：</span></p><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-fg-1); font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff;"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“第一题选什么？”</span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;"> </span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“一会儿把这张卷子做一点。<strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.55);"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">”</span></strong></span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">而爸爸总是一开口就训斥：</span></p><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-fg-1); font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff;"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“你懂不懂礼貌？”</span></strong></span></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;"> </span></strong></span></section><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“父母跟你说话，知不知道回答？”</span></strong></span></section></section></section></blockquote><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">长期下来，宸宸根本听不到父母在说什么，应激般地对父母产生本能的抗拒。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">最后，闺蜜告诉我：</span><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #0052ff;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;">你的本意如何根本不重要，重要的是你带给孩子的感受。</strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><strong><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如果父母在教育孩子时态度恶劣，脾气暴躁，很容易让孩子将注意力转移到父母的情绪上。</span></strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">不仅很难认识到自己行为本身的问题，还容易激发孩子的反抗心理，亲子关系走向恶化。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; width: 562px; visibility: visible !important; height: 156px;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FrHoTnqEe1iumNYCXPNOSJGN4r4O" /></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">听完闺蜜的一席话之后，我醍醐灌顶。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">仔细回想一下，在和儿子沟通的过程中，我总是居高临下。说是沟通，但总是通过命令的语气，逼迫儿子做这做那，例如：</span></p><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-bottom: 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff;"></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: var(--weui-fg-1); font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff;"><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“吃饭的时候不许玩手机！”</span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;"> </span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“作业写成这样也好意思交？赶紧重写一份！”</span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;"> </span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; color: #6e6e6e;">“我都是为你好，你听我的就行！”</span></strong></span></p></section></section></blockquote><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">若他不听，我就会逐渐提高音量、加重语气，想要通过家长的“权威”逼迫他去认同和遵守自己的观点。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">哪怕我的初衷并非如此，但情绪上头，人难自控。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">最后忽视了儿子的感受和需要，以致彼此不停地疏远和伤害。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">可话说回来，如果一个孩子，整天被训斥、被挑三拣四，得到的温柔、理解极少，怎么可能期待他对别人温柔？</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">想起中国家庭教育十佳公益人物之一的贾容韬，在书中分享过自己的经历。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他儿子在步入高中后，出现了严重的问题：天天逃课去网吧、成绩倒数第一，数次参与打群架、两度被学校劝退。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">那段时间，他每天对儿子不是严厉责备，就是动手打骂。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">父子俩天天针尖对麦芒，关系紧张。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他在深刻反思之后，决定改变自己与儿子的沟通态度。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">儿子考砸了，他不再抱怨，而是和颜悦色地说：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“孩子，考得不少啊，老爸现在才知道一个高中生多么不容易。说实话，要让爸爸去考，还考不了这么多分呢。”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">儿子骑自行车撞了一个小孩，花去上千元的检查费和医药费，他也没有上来就指责，反而平和地安慰儿子：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“我特别理解你现在的心情，其实你不必太责怪自己，谁能不犯一点儿错呢？我知道你不是有意的，谁会无端给家里添麻烦呢？”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">然后，他还主动帮儿子修好了自行车。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">在他和风细雨的关爱下，儿子不再和他针锋相对，还努力上进，最后考入了重点大学。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">李玫瑾教授说过：你对孩子说话的语气，决定着孩子对你的态度。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #0052ff;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="color: #0052ff; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">当父母放低姿态，耐心、温和地和孩子好好沟通，用绵绵细语将人生智慧慢慢灌输到孩子的脑中，孩子的内心就会被安全感所包裹，他会感受到自己是被父母深爱的、尊重的。</span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如此，教育才会坚定地发挥作用。</span></p><p> </p><section style="margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FnBP7aqIJ2aOrOy4BMv_EgoCCLJ1" /></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; width: 562px; visibility: visible !important; height: 156px;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FnU5aWTLsvOCZO58wuJypzT2Nn8v" /></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">意识到自己在与儿子沟通上的简单、粗暴后，我决心改变自己的态度。<br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;" /></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我不再命令儿子做这做那，也不再对他大吼大叫，更不会动辄指责他。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我辛苦做好的饭菜，儿子吃了两口就放下筷子：“我吃饱了！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">要是以前，我肯定会拍案而起，大声斥责他不珍惜我的劳动成果。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如今我却能心平气和地说：“好的，晚上你要是饿了就喊我，我再给你做。”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">儿子半夜不睡觉玩手机，我也没有勃然大怒，而是轻柔地说：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“别玩太晚了，小心明天起不来哦！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">那天，儿子又考砸了，一脸无所谓地拿着卷子给我签字。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我看着卷子上血红的56分，顿时气血翻涌，但我仍假装平静地签了字，还微笑着对他说：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“不错，能看出来进步了，同样的题型你这次做出来了！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">儿子的脸上闪现了一丝惊讶，默不作声地走开了。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">那天晚上，儿子竟然破天荒地敲开了我的房门，向我请教这次考试的错题。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我欣喜地发现，我已经初步敲开了儿子的心门，一切都在朝着好的方向发展！</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如今回头来看，儿子对我态度的改变，完全得益于这段时间我所执行的三个“沟通策略”：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #0052ff;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="color: #0052ff; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">即“低音量 ”+“温柔的言语”+“和善的态度”。</span></strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #000000;">1. 音量要放低</span></strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">看过一个心理学实验，实验人员将妈妈超过85dB的说话录音，放给10名7~10岁的孩子听。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">然后让他们写下录音的内容，结果只有13.3%的孩子写对了。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">也就是说，父母说话的声音越大，孩子的注意力就越难以集中，教育的目的就更无法达成。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">低声说话，传递给孩子的是愉悦、平静的情绪，让他感到身心放松；</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">大声吵吵，让他感受到的是压抑、恐惧，他只会离父母越来越远。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">没有人可以靠高分贝的斥责走进另一人的内心，想要教育好孩子，首先要学会降低音量。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #000000;">2. 言辞要温柔</span></strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">尹建莉的女儿有次数学没考好，老师在家长会后特意找她说了此事。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">回到家后，她没有责骂女儿，而是温柔地说道：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“老师说你这几次数学虽然考得不是很理想，但她觉得你的数学其实是很有潜力的。”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">就这样，女儿受到很大鼓励，自信也被激发起来，之后越考越好。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">很多时候，同一句话，不同的表达方式，带给孩子也是截然不同的感觉。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">我个人的经验是要“硬话软说”“负面的话积极地说”。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">比如把“赶紧过来吃饭！”换成“我做了你喜欢的排骨，再不来吃要凉咯！”</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">把“不许玩手机了！”换成“妈妈能理解你，手机确实很有意思，可是长时间玩不仅伤害眼睛，还影响学习，你是大孩子了，妈妈知道你心中有数。”<br style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;" /></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">当孩子感受到你的尊重和温和，其实很容易放下心扉，发自内心地接纳你、认可你。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #000000;">3. 态度要和善</span></strong></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">“梅拉宾法则”中曾明确指出，人与人交往沟通中，你用什么表情和态度，对关系影响很大。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">教育孩子时，最忌讳的就是板着臭脸、摆出高高在上的态度，冷冰冰地与对方说话。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">电视剧《小欢喜》中，方一凡对待父母的态度截然不同。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">妈妈董文洁不管发生什么，总是对他用命令的语气，态度强硬，动不动指责他这不行，那不行；</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">于是，他要么装作没听见，要么阳奉阴违； </span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; width: 645px !important; visibility: visible !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FhM_MiI3lD56Ti-VKS3k1eCiMGMd" /></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">爸爸方圆和他说话时总是和颜悦色、面带微笑，经常认可他的优点；</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他总是郑重其事地听，然后把爸爸的话放在心上，悄悄改变。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">父母说话的态度不同，沟通的效果也就截然不同。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">温柔的脸色、和善的态度，就是温暖孩子内心的火炉，让孩子愿意听你说，也愿意为之改变。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: center; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; vertical-align: middle; color: #222222; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible !important; width: 35px !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FgHUYwFTfRY-raFSyfwDZJLasUMl" /></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">有句话说得很有道理：</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: #0052ff;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px;">教育孩子需要一种绵力，要顺应孩子的感觉和节奏，错误的教育方向与方式，孩子会把你撞飞。</strong></span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">如果你发现和孩子很难沟通，不妨想一想“梅拉宾法则”。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">他会告诉你，你对孩子下达的每次命令，发的每一次脾气，都会把孩子越推越远。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">只有和颜悦色、温暖如春，才有机会融化孩子心里的冰与寒，成为那个“赢得”孩子的人。</span></p><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 24px 8px 0px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff; line-height: 2em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; white-space: normal; background-color: #ffffff;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FtZVinBi0p-PJ1Pvy8Qs6FxcXnPH" /></span></p><section style="margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"></section><section style="margin-left: 8px; 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