柬埔寨|柬单网|html{font-size:375%} 内卷，躺平，精神内耗，灵活就业……这里是十点人物志的系列栏目“当代青年生活实录”。大到就业婚恋，小 ...

今儿个热讯 发表于 2025-10-2 11:21:54

选择“卒婚”的夫妻：离家不离婚，各自生活不打扰

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white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; font-family: PingFang SC, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; background-color: #ffffff; color: #222222; caret-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); text-align: start; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 10px 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible;"><section class="js_darkmode__1" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: -4px 0px 0em; padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: #efefef; visibility: visible; color: #c4c4c4 !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 0px 0em; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-size: medium; visibility: visible; text-align: justify; color: #cdcdcd !important;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 0px 0em; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #838383; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible;"><section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; font-style: italic; font-size: 14px;">内卷，躺平，精神内耗，灵活就业……这里是十点人物志的系列栏目“当代青年生活实录”。大到就业婚恋，小到吃饭购物，21世纪新新青年的快乐与忧愁全在这里。</section></section></section></section></section></section> <span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">今年33岁的圈圈觉得<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">，楼下那个年轻男孩可能暗恋她。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">两个人曾一起因为公寓大楼门打不开而被关在大厅，误了上班时间，还是男生骑着电动车送她去地铁站。此后，两人天天遇到，男生天天提出送她，她天天拒绝。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">后来圈圈才知道，男生一直以为自己是单亲妈妈，因为上下班坐电梯经过圈圈家，见过她家门口有很多小朋友的鞋，却没有男人的鞋。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">大部分时间，圈圈也的确过着单亲妈妈的生活，但她拒绝了一切来自异性的暧昧，因为法律意义上，圈圈已婚，有丈夫，两人已经分居两个城市近一年，是“卒婚”的状态。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">卒婚，是从日本兴起的婚姻新形态，意为“从婚姻中毕业”。双方保留婚姻名义，但各自生活，不再扮演传统观念中的理想夫妻。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">这一模式也出现在中国三四十岁的中年人中，用以应对低质量的婚姻。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">《“夫妻互动与婚姻关系”调查结果报告》显示，婚龄在10到15年的参与者的婚姻稳定性和质量都处于最低水平，例如缺少性生活、几乎不接吻，沟通也局限在简单的事务性交流。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; 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letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">拉开后不推回去<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">的抽屉、抹布一样挂在衣架上的衣服、马桶上的尿渍……”一位和丈夫分居两年的网友说，“我们彼此小心翼翼，疲惫不堪。终于忍到达成默契，连架都没吵，有一天他没有回家，然后就一直没回来。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">一个沾了尿渍的马桶圈，就能把婚姻逼进死角。当压力即将爆表，分居成为理想的压力阀。日本作家杉山由美子在《推荐卒婚》中提到:“长寿时代的婚姻，不是忍耐的马拉松，而是自我救赎的接力赛。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">选择卒婚的夫妻，渴望从琐碎生活中获得喘息，重新考量爱与责任。而那些空间和思考，也把婚姻，和婚姻定义的生活、情感、责任乃至财产，带向了不同的地方。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"> <section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: center;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; vertical-align: bottom; height: auto !important; width: 645px !important; visibility: visible !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FiItKbbHysT4WtvdtSulATD_U59P" alt="图片" /></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">离家之后<p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">像逃出笼子的鸟那样自由 <span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">也33岁了，和丈夫、公婆一家住在一起，还有一个上幼儿园的女儿。今年4月，她下定决心给丈夫发了一条消息。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“我想搬出去住，给彼此一点空间。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“好的。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">这不是要挟、不是气话，更不是恐吓。只在微信沟通一个来回，<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">和丈夫李明轩就达成了分居的共识。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在杭州萧山，子文有一个婚前置下的小公寓，原本一直空着，决定卒婚后，她开始按自己的心意打理。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">刷遍了网上的装修风格，最终选定了“容乱率”最高的中古风。先给自己买了一张温润的木质大床，再买些铁艺的书桌和茶几，放一盏红色的台灯，还有咖啡机和留声机……子文已经想好那些空闲的下午如何度过：听着莫扎特的老唱片，喝一杯自己弄的咖啡。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">她像松鼠那样一点点搬运自己的东西，塞进小公寓。一个月后，小家布置完成，子文一个人住进去。她躺在queen size的大床上，突然觉得自己飞起来，像只逃出了笼子的小鸟，尽管这只小鸟是从140平米的大房子，飞进了一间70平的小公寓。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 100%;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FpjD979zvOhDeiAovn3E7NB6LwsB" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文布置完的新家<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">圈圈的离开则没有这么轻松。此前，圈圈和丈夫方块一起生活在永康，生活流程通常就是带两个小孩起床、去公婆的工厂上班、下班陪孩子玩，等孩子上楼和爷爷奶奶玩时，就关上门和方块小声地吵架。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">方块是个<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">温和<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">的人，但有些懒，把家务推给母亲，又把自家工厂所有的工作交给老婆。他可以玩着手机，一天只翻几个身，洗澡时也把一只手伸出淋浴头外继续刷短视频。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">矛盾越来越不可调和。2024年的冬天，某次因为经济问题的常规争吵时，他竟大声吼了圈圈。圈圈气得血气上涌，心里反倒理智起来，当即做出离开的决定。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">幸好她也在杭州有房。圈圈告诉父母，自己跟丈夫吵架了；又告诉公婆，孩子将来要去杭州上学，需要提前适应环境。随后，她便收拾了行李，坐上前往杭州的高铁。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">窗外的树光秃秃，圈圈心里冰冰凉。“要离婚！”她当时心里这样喊。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">不过，夫妻之间复杂的财务关系、孩子的抚养问题摆在眼前，以及可预见的两家父母的反对。圈圈也知道，这件事急不来。她决定先享受“单身生活”。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“杭州的空气都是甜的。”圈圈玩笑说。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在物理上远离了丈夫和丈夫家人每天都在念叨的工厂债务后，她可以找老友喝酒、聚餐，一个人去看电影。大到找工作，小到晚上吃什么，她自己决定所有事。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在独处时光中，子文和圈圈感觉自己剥离了家庭责任，摆脱了妻子、母亲、儿媳这些身份，短暂地成为了自己。重新掌握主动权后，她们调侃自己仿佛是在“报复性生活”。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在永康连绿萝也不养的圈圈，在杭州家里养了一大堆植物，霸王蕨、龟背竹、麒麟瓜椒草、鱼骨仙人掌、龙鳞，高低错落摆满客厅和阳台，屋子仿佛热带雨林。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; padding: 0.5em;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="box-shadow: #d2d2d2 0px 0px 0.5em 0px; width: 100%;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FnUbtyx8-uMmPZnrqh6QOxA3-pXd" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">圈圈家里美丽的植物们<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">离家的理由不光是逃离，也包括主动寻求自我。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">社交媒体上，有些夫妻选择卒婚是因为工作城市不同，两人都不想放弃自己的事业投奔对方，但离婚又要面对财产和抚养权分割等种种问题，跟家人朋友都不好交代，索性保持现有关系，“从婚姻中毕业”。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">2004年，日本《断舍离》的作者山下英子提出了“卒婚”的模式。她曾在女性杂志做过调查，发现大家最想“断舍离”的竟是自己的丈夫。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">山下英子对此深有同感。她曾在老家丈夫的诊所当会计，后来为了写作事业，她独自前往东京打拼。“断舍离”丈夫之后，她仍与丈夫保持着良好的关系，他们互不干涉生活，偶尔见面，互相支持。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“卒婚”已经在日本流行开来，2018年日本厚生劳动省的人口动态统计显示，约有30%的夫妻选择了这种生活方式，目的是“在婚姻中重获自由”。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; 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caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">被逼进死角的婚姻<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"> <span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">对子文来说，自由意味着她终于可以砸东西了。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">每年的七八月，她都会没缘由地暴怒，但此前，她没有砸东西的“资格”。有一次，与婆婆发生口角，子文把手上的锅往台面放，稍重了点。婆婆说：“你不要砸我们家的东西。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">但在这个夏天，她可以把情绪无所顾忌地发泄出来。在自己的小公寓里，有时候情绪突然涌上来，她会把手上的东西狠狠砸掉，脾气发泄完，再平静地把一地狼藉收拾干净。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 79%; flex-basis: auto; background-color: transparent; height: auto !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fq2odhfgxtE8Xhdk2gfUwh4XSWRj" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">独居中的子文<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文也去看过心理医生，医生诊断她这种夏日暴怒症状属于创伤后应激障碍。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">2020年夏天，子文的女儿出生，随后她经历了一个极其压抑的产后恢复期。天气一热，就会唤起当时的情绪。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">那时候，婆婆会突然闯进她的房间，指责她懒惰，也会在她乳腺炎后责怪她吃退烧药，影响孙女喝奶。而丈夫总是站在一旁闷不做声，仿佛一个外人。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文知道，自己才是那个外人。她只身住进丈夫的家，学着丈夫那样忍受婆婆的强势，她没有自己的桌子，连在厕所台面上放一瓶乳液都要问婆婆：“我能放这儿吗？”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文闯进了丈夫李明轩的原生家庭，才发现对方和恋爱时完全不同的另一面。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">李明轩是一个程序员，会骄傲地向子文介绍自己写出的系统，子文爱上了他。这个他，节俭、老实、懂得多。但<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">回到家里<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">，丈夫变成了另一个人，唯唯诺诺、妈宝、从不和妻女站在一边。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">当爱被消磨，伴侣的习惯逐渐变得不可忍受。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文开始讨厌他的节俭，讨厌他不舍得扔撕烂的快递包装袋，也讨厌他为节省几块钱商场停车费而把车停到几百米外，还讨厌他每天早上起来抢各个APP积分时满足的笑脸。她不希望丈夫只把精力放在省钱上，安于自己稳定的体制内工作和算不上多的工资。甚至，丈夫这笔工资也全用来还房贷，养育女儿和其他所有家用都由子文掏。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">爱情不见了，子文开始觉得每次亲热都变得十分难熬。她曾严肃地告诉丈夫：“我对这样的人，实在提不起性欲。”话静悄悄落在空气里。李明轩不回答、不改变。在子文一次次的拒绝后，这对中年夫妻也已近两年不再有性生活。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">他们成了一对没有爱、没有性、没有钱、没有体贴和陪伴的夫妻。交流永远只有一个来回，一个人提出要求，另一个人说：“好的”“哦”“知道了”。子文不死心，抓着李明轩吵架，而他只会安静地坐在床尾。子文一拳打在棉花上，越来越像一个疯女人。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 100%;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Ft5mlkweY-MblVlxTY3s9wd29NC9" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">《坡道上的家》剧照<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文不能真的躲进阁楼变成疯女人，她选择走出去，实现“精神上的离婚”。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">搬出去三个月后，李明轩给她发微信：要不然我们离婚吧。子文回：“你可以去起诉我，否则我不会离婚。”子文想得清楚，她无法承担离婚的风险，她怕女儿的抚养权会被工作稳定的丈夫抢走。她需要合法婚姻保护女儿的利益。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">李明轩的离婚请求也更像一次情绪发泄。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">三天后，他又发来信息：“我不想离婚，我们再想想。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"> <section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: center;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; vertical-align: bottom; width: 100%; visibility: visible !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fug7qiCNT50_AA0CUnK74rIBG3H8" /></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">在婚姻间隙里<p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">划出一片个人空间<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"> <span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">对中年夫妻来说，<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">离婚往往是有代价的<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">比如“在市场低点卖掉共同拥有的房子不划算”“各自背一笔贷款太辛苦”“财产被动分割可能导致公司估值受影响”等等。太多现实问题摆在眼前，他们不得不考虑财产、孩子的抚养、父母的赡养以及各种外界评价。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">圈圈也决定不离婚了。她没办法一边上班一边照顾两个孩子，更不能忍受把两个孩子分开抚养。在享受了几个月的单身生活后，她把一儿一女接到杭州，儿子就近上幼儿园。女儿太小，只好把婆婆一起接来带娃。方块接手了工厂工作，会定期打来两个孩子的生活费。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在中国，“卒婚”更像是离婚之外的保守选择。虽有零星尝试，但没有法律和习俗可依。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">盈开律师事务所律师祝怡解释，这其中存在诸多法律风险。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">首先哪怕夫妻双方在事实上结束了婚姻关系，但法律上仍是夫妻，需要履行诸如彼此忠诚等义务。即便两人商议保持开放关系、约定财产分配。但如果一方提起诉讼，仍然可以通过证据认为对方是过错方，要求财产重新分配，付出的财产也可能被追回。婚姻关系中也不能分割监护权，也很难追究一方争夺藏匿孩子的责任。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“钱和孩子，婚姻的两大核心，都是风险。”祝怡说。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">但总有人坚持婚后独居，即便是冒着法律风险。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">今年36岁的西子就是如此。她的第一段婚姻也是分居时间居多，丈夫在<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">南方<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">工作，她受不了没有暖气的冬天，跑回西安和父母住在一起。难得的夫妻同住时间里也常常争吵。西子怕热、丈夫怕冷，他们每晚都要抢夺空调温度的控制权，吵到一人去沙发上睡。最后，四年的婚姻以丈夫出轨而告终，她带着儿子回到西安独住。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">第二段婚姻，她依然坚持分居。“一个人住真是太爽了。”西子说，她洗完澡可以不急着穿衣服，想把空调开到几度都不用考虑另一个人怕冷怕热。大段独处的时间，她就用来看书、在聊天室谈天说地，也和现任丈夫在微信聊天，听他汇报这一天的事迹。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">西子偶尔去丈夫家里，从不留宿。在那个家里，床头随意摆着烟灰缸，衣服随手扔在沙发上，电脑键盘的“wasd”四个键磨得锃亮——丈夫有时会通宵打游戏。西子知道，他一个人住也格外自在。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">丈夫每周来一两次，按照西子的要求，洗完澡才来，尽量不抽烟。即便这样的频次，两人也曾因为马桶圈大吵过。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">丈夫<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">后来表示自己一定坐着尿，不会在马桶上留下尿渍。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">马桶圈一直是干净的，爱情也新鲜了。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 100%;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fuv8ljLOelYAzI4mn6fOagq2t2vK" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">《俗女养成记》剧照<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">西子甚至不再要求丈夫忠诚。她一度对性事不感兴趣，便允许丈夫在外有女友，唯一的要求是，得让她知情。丈夫也做到了，允许她翻手机，聊天记录和消费记录全部透明。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">西子在关中平原，却摸索出一套摩梭人的生活方式。女人住在自己的家里，“走婚来的男人不需要永远在、永远爱我，我只需要你在我身边的时候爱着我。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"> <section style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: center;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; vertical-align: bottom; width: 100%; visibility: visible !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fmtx0Zj-at5WYJB8g_K-MuMh5z2X" /></section><p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">卒婚后的伴侣<p style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 16px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; font-style: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: 0.544px; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; white-space: normal; text-decoration-thickness: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; text-decoration-color: initial; background-color: #ffffff; caret-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6); text-align: right; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #ffda51; font-family: PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; caret-color: #ffda51;">变回了一个“好人”<section style="line-height: 1.75em;"></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">妻子和母亲都去了杭州，方块被独自留在永康，他不得不自己动手做家务。接手了工厂的工作后，一大堆债务直接摆在他面前，他才终于体会到妻子曾经的焦头烂额<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">失去妻子的危机感突然涌上来，方块再次道歉，甚至主动提出：两人一起去看心理医生，治疗他们的婚姻。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“你老婆受了很多委屈。”心理医生告诉方块。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">隔着两个城市的距离，圈圈和方块儿的交流变多了，两人的聊天内容终于不局限于“孩子”这个唯一的话题。圈圈在杭州见到的很多事儿，都忍不住想与方块分享。小孩教育的话题，他们也会一起去翻书。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在恋爱前，两人一度是朋友，现在，婚姻的空档里重新生出了友情。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">周末，<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">方块会来杭州，主动规划带孩子出游，还主动干家务、拖地、给植物浇水、尝试着做一家四口的饭。<section style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 100%;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/Fh3628fpF8KnpwbcsXN4ehQS86c5" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">《花束般恋爱》剧照<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">《普通心理学综述》的一份研究显示，影响中年人婚姻满意度最重要的因素是：工具性目标。即伴侣能不能共同分担家务、一起管理家庭财务、承担抚养孩子等责任。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">工具性目标的实现后，别的目标终于有机会渐渐浮现。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">波兰社会学家鲍曼曾提出“流动的爱”，意为爱情不再局限于狭义的夫妻之间的浪漫爱情，而流动成为一种更温暖的能量。圈圈和方块的爱情在友情中又流动起来。曾经总在吵架中不了了之的性生活也回来了。两个人已经半年没有再吵架。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文则确信，被消磨完的爱情不可能重生。她专心享受独居生活。每周三天陪伴女儿，抽空做自媒体分享生活，房间里那株天堂鸟越长越高。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">她曾想做一个标准意义上的好妻子，所以总在忍。顺应那个家的习惯，与婆婆发生矛盾也不想让丈夫夹在中间难做，丈夫拿不出家用她就主动承担。现在她想开了，不再被“好妻子”绑架，她只做她自己。<section></section><section style="text-align: center;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" style="width: 69%; flex-basis: auto; background-color: transparent; height: auto !important;" src="https://pic.app.58cammp.com/FvwTdGNHDmMJ8ACPjy5YTqomEspo" /></section><span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文和女儿在香港街头游玩<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">丈夫李明轩仅仅成为了她育儿的合作伙伴，“你不会跟同事要求情绪价值吧？”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">在这个过程中，她再度发现李明轩的优点，对她父母客气孝顺、会为丈母娘体检跑上跑下、会主动做家务、对孩子也好。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">七月是女儿的生日，李明轩早早来陪女儿和女儿的小客人们。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">“冰箱里有喝的自己拿。”子文和他打完招呼，便回厨房做生日大餐。客厅里，李明轩专心陪女儿下围棋。晚些时候，客人们来了，大家摆开飞行棋，一个大人几个小孩，玩得咋咋呼呼很是热闹。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">子文安静地看着这些。“只要不来跟我谈感情，一切都很好，”她给丈夫下了定义：“一个好人，也是一个对我孩子很好的外人。”<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">她从婚姻中毕业了。<span style="color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9); font-size: 17px; font-family: mp-quote, PingFang SC, system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.034em; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px 0px 0em; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: #888888; letter-spacing: 0.54px; line-height: 29.75px; visibility: visible; font-size: 15px;"><span style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible;">来源：十点人物志 </div>

独钓江淮 发表于 2025-10-2 11:27:09

可以和底下的小伙子一起玩玩

陪你去看流星雨 发表于 2025-10-2 14:10:18

666，还不如直接离了，这样有什么意思，都不爱了

平籍粣 发表于 2025-10-2 14:10:34

就是没感情了

柬巴基印度印尼 发表于 2025-10-2 15:35:30

可以多去酒吧，一天一个男朋友

柬巴基印度印尼 发表于 2025-10-2 15:35:37

继续哦提了，，，，，

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